In the bible we, as mothers and wives, are told to be busy at home. (Titus 2:4-5) We get so busy with other things that make us unable to be home. I’m not talking about women who work outside the home. Some women need to do that and there’s no condemnation in it. I’m talking about how we are so busy socializing or running our kids all over for music lessons or practices in their favorite sport that we forget the importance of ordering our homes. To be “busy at home”.
I’m certainly not in the mindset that a woman’s place is only in the home. Believe me, I understand women are needed in society. Ponder on these thoughts with me though. A woman has the privildege of ordering her home. For setting the tone of the enviornment in her home. That may have to do with some physical aspects like cleaniliness, cooking and organization but the heart of it is actually assiting in setting the tone spiritually for the home. As a couple, a husband and wife are to do this together. The atmosphere comes from the one who spends most of their time in the home. Though the man is the head of the house, the woman has a lot of pull in setting the tone in her home. Character building and shaping of our children is best done at home. Not in running from here to there.
Busy at home is a picture of a woman taking care of all the things that need to be done at home with a peaceful heart because she has met with Jesus that morning and she is ready to tend to the needs of her family both physically and spiritually. She is ready as a warrior is dressed and ready for battle. There is nothing weak in being a woman settled in her home. (Psalm 113:9) This is a woman ready for the task God has given her. (Prov. 31:17)
So often the Proverbs 31 woman is looked at with physical eyes but let’s look at her with spiritual eyes. This woman does not fear the coldness of winter because her family is covered with the best linens. Her family has been given the best spiritual food by this woman who does not let her lamp go out at night and is up early in the morning. (Prov. 31:21-11, 15, 18) Her household is clothed with character, love, joy of the Lord and the peace of God. The fire and passion of the Lord burns in their hearts creating an atmosphere in the home that is felt by everyone who walks in their door. This is the woman who is busy at home. Not a fictional character but a real woman in any part of the world in any time in history. This woman is leaving a legacy for her children and being a crown for her husband. (Proverbs 31:28, 12:4) This is the woman not neglecting her home for things of temporal value. (Prov. 31:27) This is the woman who fears the Lord (Prov. 31:30) This is the calling of a wife and mother.
Don’t settle for anything less then the best of what God has called you for. Don’t use your physical eyes to see it. Use your spiritual eyes. The Holy Spirit will guide your every step . Trust him to guide you like a pilot in the fog trusts the air traffic controller to guide him. It starts with the heart. Come to Him as you are. Let Him love you and guide you and you to will be this woman.
A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30b (NIV)
Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1 (Amplified)
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 (NIV)